Why Leaders Embrace Adaptive Change to Achieve Better Outcomes

This article originally appeared in The Modern Leadership Issue of Performance Matters Magazine. To request a print or digital copy of the magazine, click here.

Our client, Alex, was admired as an individual contributor for exceptional results; they took pride in never dropping the ball. This drive to succeed, coupled with the fear of making mistakes, reinforced Alex’s belief that meeting goals and delivering exceptional results depended upon their ability to maintain vigilance and control. Alex feared that if they didn’t personally do the work, it would be subpar. As a high performer, Alex was continually rewarded, validated, and recognized for their exceptional work and ultimately was promoted from individual contributor to people manager.

As a leader, Alex continued to maintain control and oversee every aspect of the team’s work to keep all balls in the air. That seemed to work for a while in their first people management role, but when they became a leader of leaders, balls started to drop. Team frustration mounted—some team members spiraled, losing motivation and disengaging from their work. Others resorted to backchannel communication, complaining about Alex and attempting to figure out what Alex truly wanted from them. With every ball dropped—a missed deadline, a presentation not hitting the mark—Alex’s internal narrative of “I can’t trust my team to do good work, so I must do more” grew stronger. This in turn reinforced the team’s narrative of “Alex doesn’t trust us to do great work so why even try.”

Alex was in a problem-reacting cycle. Problem-Reacting happens when a leader’s underlying assumptions or beliefs (such as “relying on others is not safe, I can only trust myself”) drives them to display behaviors that temporarily relieve anxiety or fears, yet ultimately impede long-term goals and aspirations. Often, leaders with this patterning tend to work long hours, not develop strong trusting relationships with their team members, and end up burning out. With support, Alex uncovered that their problem-reacting tendencies were rooted in past experiences where people had not come through for them, resulting in loss and hardship.

Alex’s pattern looked like this:

1. Work autonomously; take on the work of their team members so that it’s done right and done fast.
2. Receive new important strategic team objectives.
3. Take on more work because they don’t have confidence that others will do a good job.
4. Team members are not taking ownership, are not engaged, and are disconnected.
5. Workload gets more intense and performance declines.
6. Repeat. 🙁

This vicious cycle continued until one quarter, Alex’s team did not achieve their team objectives. Alex’s next-level leader stepped in to share their observation that Alex was not successfully leading their team, and suggested that they work together on an improvement plan. Alex reached out to their team members via a 360-degree survey for feedback. Although this feedback was initially devastating for Alex, it also opened their eyes to a blind spot; and it prompted a complete reframe.

Receiving feedback was a catalyst for Alex, kickstarting their transformative leadership journey. By uncovering the root causes of their reactive behaviors, Alex gained a deeper self-awareness of their triggers and began challenging the assumptions and beliefs that limited them. With the support of their next-level leader and other mentors and coaches, Alex began by writing down who they aspired to be as a leader. Their leadership mantra became, “I empower, develop, and support team members in service of achieving our team goals,” acting as their north star. Of course, it was not easy to live by this mantra when scary or challenging situations came up. For example, letting go of control felt unsettling and risky. In these instances, Alex relied on their leadership mantra while also tuning into their body and emotions. They began by looking inside, reflecting on questions that gave them more clarity:

• What’s this feeling I’m having?
• What’s underneath it? (e.g., am I seeking security by controlling what’s around me at all costs?)
• How does this response limit or work against me becoming the leader I aspire to be?
• How might my perception of this situation change if I viewed it through the lens of my aspirational leadership mantra?
• What action will I take to move me toward that aspiration?

These prompts allowed Alex to recognize the reaction happening within their body, providing a new frame to guide their actions. The team began noticing Alex engaging them in decisions and coaching them to be empowered owners of their work. Over time, Alex experienced their workload begin to distribute and change. Team members were owning more from the start and involving Alex as a thought partner for direction or roadblock clearing. Outcomes skyrocketed. Trust multiplied. As Alex shifted away from a problem-reacting mindset, they entered what we call an outcome-creating or virtuous cycle.

Now Alex’s pattern looks like this:

1. Anchor in their leadership aspiration.
2. Receive new exciting strategic objectives.
3. Pause, notice any immediate reactions (e.g., face flushes, throat closes), and reorient to their aspiration.
4. Bring the team together to map out the objective, plan, and roles based on current skills and personal growth goals.
5. Team members are energized about the work and their ability to contribute to the team’s success; Alex steps back from the details to provide broader perspective.
6. The team achieves its objectives, and team members learn and grow in the process. Trust among team members and in Alex grows.
7. Repeat. 🙂

Moving from problem-reacting to outcome-creating is referred to as adaptive change, taking root in small moments and iterative behaviors over time. It’s the kind of shift that’s transformative, meaning the proverbial rubber band does not snap back. This change becomes a new way of being and brings a new mindset.

While our individual problem-reacting patterns vary, we all have them—from the front line to the C-Suite. Some of us may see a bit of Alex in ourselves, while others may experience slightly different patterns. Here are a couple more patterns that may resonate for you:

• The need to be liked and accepted by others. While belonging is a core need for all of us, sometimes we have long-held beliefs that if we have too strong of an opinion, make an unpopular decision, or stand out from the group, we will be rejected. This fear can get in the way of making decisions, taking decisive action, or speaking up.
• The need to be seen as strong and powerful. Of course, we all want to be admired or recognized for the value we bring. Yet the need to feel powerful and strong can get in the way of our authentic contribution  if we make choices to minimize others or hide who we really are. This fear can significantly impact our connections and relationships with others, diminishing our awareness of the organization’s needs and those around us.

Each of these patterns is rooted in different underlying beliefs about ourselves, but the antidote for each is the same: adaptive change. When we pay attention to how we impact others; open ourselves to and seek feedback; pay attention to how we feel and act when we are triggered; and try out new, outcome-creating ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving; then we are doing the hard work that results in adaptive change.

This article originally appeared in The Modern Leadership Issue of Performance Matters Magazine. To request a print or digital copy of the magazine, click here.